| | Hey! It's Election Day! Go vote! If anything, to get out of work/school/etc. for a while! I know I will be 
The past month has really put things into perspective for me. In light of everything that has happened in such a short amount of time, I've realized more than ever how so few friends I really have. Yes, I know several people, and yes, I do my best to maintain contact with as many as I can, thanks to Facebook and AIM. But there are very few people that I would feel comfortable just calling up at most any hour of the day (within reason, of course) to discuss things that are bugging me, or to make plans for another day. Very few people. I could probably count them on one hand, and have a few fingers left over.
That worries me, because I'd like to think I have interesting things to say, at least some of the time. I don't think it is possible for someone to have something fascinating to say 100% of the time. After all, there are elements of life that are mundane. Or maybe I'm wrong, and I might be a very boring person and not even realize it, which is the cause of all my troubles I do consider myself to be a good friend, but there are some things in a friendship that both parties need to put forth. I think reciprocity is by and large the key to a good friendship. With reciprocity, you can gain trust and respect for the other person. It does not happen immediately, though. You have to build it from the ground up.
Granted, there are some people you just connect with right away, but that is the exception, not the norm. I'm usually pretty good about taking the initiative to invite acquaintances out to various events I hear of, wherever I may be at the time, with the intention of getting to know them better. I'd like to think we have a great time. At least I have a good time. But then for some reason, we lose touch, or we just end up staying acquaintances.
I'm not saying that I need several hundred best friends, but I just wish there were more people who would invest as much into a friendship as I do. I know everyone is busy with their own careers and lives, as am I, but
there should still be a minimal commitment to keeping in touch, seeing
how things are, and hanging out in person occasionally, if you want to
call someone your friend.
I wish there were more people that if I needed a shoulder to cry on, I'd go to them, and I would not have to think twice about it. People always say that if you need a shoulder to cry on, they would be there. But their actions do not reflect that.
And, as I've learned the hard way in the last month, actions speak louder than words. They drown out anything you have ever heard. |
| | Posted 11/4/2008 6:10 AM - 39 Views - 4 eProps - 3 comments
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